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Israel begins its ground invasion of the Gaza Strip

Fucking signal boost this shit

This is one of the most horrific things happening in the world and yet I can’t seem to find out any news about it.

Ambulances are being shot by tanks. Doctors, civilians, children playing on the beach and everyone else are all being killed.

Tell me something only my brother would know about me.

When you were eleven, you walked on your tiptoes for nine months. No one knew why, but you had done since you started secondary school. Mum and Dad tried you on all sorts of pills, therapy, but still you tiptoed. The special clogs, do you remember those clogs? You wore them in the morning but after Mum dropped you off at the bus stop, you’d take them off, put them in your backpack, put on some pumps and be back on your toes by the time the coach pulled up.






being femme is not about being feminine. it’s about reclaiming what it is to be strong.

people read as feminine have also been condemned as weak, frail, unauthentic, and incapable as long as time is old. being femme, no matter gender identity, is about saying, fuck you, the things that make me feminine also make me strong. my femininity is not fake, contrived, or narrow - it is real and broad and open and empowering.

femme is a lesbian term just fyi (meaning femme lesbian)

i mean i agree but you tagged this with bi tumblr and it’s not an inclusive term it is lesbian exclusive (as is butch, dyke).  

nope. sorry, but you are 100% wrong.

bi women have ALWAYS been a part of queer women’s movements and always will be. we have always been a part of forming “lesbian” culture and always will be. and we will always reserve the right to reclaim words like femme, butch, and dyke, because these are also descriptors of our lives and our experiences of queerness.

i am a queer, bisexual femme dyke and no amount of sapphobic, bisexual erasing identity policing can make me otherwise.

no one’s saying bi women aren’t queer women

but we are 100% saying the terms butch and femme (and dyke) arose from the LESBIAN community for LESBIANS exclusively about the LESBIAN experience 

u don’t get to rewrite history and appropriate a lesbian term and then call it bisexual erasure ????

Butch and femme emerged in the early twentieth century as a set of sexual and emotional identities among lesbians. To give a general but oversimplified idea of what butch-femme entails, one might say that butches exhibit traditionally “masculine” traits while femmes embody “feminine” ones. Although oral histories have demonstrated that butch-femme couples were seen in America as far back as the turn of the twentieth century, and that they were particularly conspicuous in the 1930s, it is the mid-century working-class and bar culture that most clearly illustrate the archetypal butch-femme dynamic. - GLBTQ

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The contemporary feminist analysis of lesbian identity is an example of just such a tendency. For the past two decades, the dominant form of feminist discourse has, in attempting to “liberate” lesbian identity from patriarchal control, instead imposed its own identity politics on the lesbian community, with the result that those lesbians whose behaviors or “styles” do not conform to the feminist agenda have been doubly-oppressed — once by the dominant patriarchal culture, and again by the movement that claimed to seek the liberation of all women. This is perhaps most obvious in the feminist critique of role playing among lesbians, which is considered by the dominant feminist discourse to be a barrier to one’s “true” identity as a woman (assuming that there is such a thing).

Despite the power and influence of this discourse, however, voices have risen from within a sort of “counter” lesbian-feminist community of scholars who wish to challenge the limiting identity politics of the seventies and early eighties. Before moving into a review of the way these voices address the identity issues surrounding lesbian butch-femme role-playing, however, it would be useful to consider some of the more general attempts at understanding the politics of lesbian identity which have both influenced and been influenced by this more specific issue. source

Lesbian Identity and the Politcs of Butch-Femme Roles, Part 2

Because they have rejected sex roles, second-wave lesbian feminists perceive butch/femme roles to be oppressive imitations of heterosexuality.[4] Lesbian feminists of the 1970s and 1980s link butches’ masculine gender expression to patriarchal power and femmes’ feminine presentation to artificiality and frivolity. Such feminists dismiss butch/femme roles as anachronistic, even when the individuals in question report feeling empowered and satisfied with their masculine and/or feminine gender presentations.[5] Defining butches as male-identified imposters and femmes as subordinate throwbacks imposes a singular standard of (white) lesbian authenticity, ignores the rich history of butch/femme resistance, and disregards the ways in which butch and femme women successfully create alternative gender identities that subvert the dominant sex/gender system. Assuming androgyny to be a more radical and empowering gender expression in all cases fails to recognize the multi-faceted identities of femmes of colour, whose specific position within queer and feminist communities invites a racial analysis that exposes issues of authenticity. Far from being passive victims of butch supremacy, femme women of colour challenge, empower, and transform femininity. Whereas heterosexual femininity is associated with artificiality and passivity, femme identity is a unique gender expression that enables self-acceptance and resistance to white, heterosexist, and patriarchal control.

[…] Often, other queers only recognize femmes as lesbians when they are accompanied by a butch partner.[18] Despite femmes of colours’ radical gender expression, queer and feminist communities often value a white, androgynous/masculine aesthetic that does not recognize the multi-faceted and intersecting aspects of femmes’ identities. source


Interviews were conducted with femme-identified lesbians; the focus was upon 4 content areas: identity development, experiences in the lesbian community, heterosexual society, and romantic relationships. 

The Misunderstood Gender: A Model of Modern Femme Identity Butch–Femme History


Kurland was a lesbian, but from 1953 to 1970 she was in the closet and married to a man. So calling the bars was her only connection to the gay and lesbian community, said Marie Cartier, who interviewed Kurland and is author of “Baby, You Are My Religion,” a book that examines how gay bars from the 1940s to the mid 1970s were sanctuaries for butch-femme lesbians. [source]

and wow


"demonstrating that butch/femme roles were a critical part of lesbian history and sexuality”




Reader’s Guide to Lesbian and Gay Studies

 edited by Timothy Murphy [source]

it is almost like it is an explicit fact that butch and femme lesbian identities are lesbian identities which derived from the lesbian community


and claiming otherwise would be erasing…..lesbians…..

Oh my god.  This is so…. painfully bad.   

Just a tip for any blogger out there:  When someone from their community tells you that there is a problem with your community downplaying, ignoring, or erasing their contributions to history, YOU DO NOT GO GET ALL YOUR SOURCES FROM THE COMMUNITY THAT DID THE ERASING TO PROVE THEM WRONG.

All this post proves is that lesbians are REALLY good at erasing the contributions of bisexual people in our shared queer women’s history.

I’m not even going to touch the first bit of “proof” from glbt.org since they don’t use any sources for their articles.   But all the rest of these sources about butch/femme are from lesbians aka “the people doing the erasing”.   Of course they are not going to give you accurate perspectives on bisexual contributions in history!   

It’s like when you have a relative who watches nothing but Fox News and you try to talk to them about something that is happening that Fox News ignores or only covers in their skewed way and they keep insisting they are informed because they watch a lot of Fox News.   *facepalm*

So let’s lay down some real knowledge about the history of butch/femme and hell, I’ll even throw in a bit about dyke even though that’s not what this post is about.   It gives me a chance to brush the dust off my Bachelor’s degree (History and Women’s Studies major with a minor in LGBT Studies). 

The word femme was first used by cross-dressing lesbian Anne Lister to refer to her bisexual lover Marianna Lawton.  The word femme has always been for bisexual women because it was first directed towards us.   We share it with lesbians because in Lister and Lawton’s time there was not such a clear-cut distinction between lesbians and bisexuals.  There was only one group - what is often referred to as Same Gender Loving People.  Lesbian, bisexual, and even gay were not separate islands in the queer sea like they are now.  Think more like queer Pangea.  

At that time, lesbians were not what we think of now — namely that identifying as a lesbian did not preclude sleeping with and having relationships with men.  Bisexual was not a commonly used term at the time.  It’s use was mostly limited to academia given that it had come from botany though it started to gain ground in psychology circles after 1900.   Other terms for queer women like invert, sapphic, homophile, and tribades were thrown around just as easily as lesbian.  However lesbian was the one that eventually took off.  

But there is a danger of getting too excited about particular words in history — words change their meaning.  


The word lesbian itself was originally used as a synonym for tribade or tribadeism, referring to women stimulating other women sexually by scissoring.  Lesbianism was something one DID not something one WAS.  You could be a lesbian when you were with a girl and straight when you were with a boy — all in the same evening if you liked!   Clearly this not how we use the word lesbian in modern times.

Butch came to us much later then femme, in the 1940’s.   There were lesbian non-monosexuals in all lesbian communities of the 1940’s when butch was easily paired to femme and took off as identity labels.   At that time you could call yourself a butch lesbian and be non-monosexual (ie what we now recognize as bisexual).  Again, the word bisexual had not yet come into common use outside of academia so there was no easy way to distinguish between a woman that had relationships with women exclusively and a woman that had relationships with men and women.  

Sidenote: If this sounds cissexist, it’s because it is.  If there is anyone in the QUILTBAG whose history is more mangled then bisexuals, it’s non-binary people.  I have no idea what non-binary people were doing at this time period or how they fit into this puzzle, and if someone does, please let me know.  I assume lesbians of this time slept with non-binary people because they were also sleeping with men, but I really have no idea how non-binary culture fit into pre-1960’s queer history.  

The word dyke is a lot more ambiguous in it’s origins.  No one is really sure where it came from and speculation runs WILD.  I’ve seen everything from French pirates to Romans fighting Boadicea.  Some say it came from hermaphrodite, a word that in the early 1900’s was used for transgender, intersex, and bisexual people. Yep, you read that right.  Dyke might not have had anything to do with lesbians in it’s original term.  However it was in the dictionary by the 1940’s so again, it came from a time when lesbian and bisexual communities were merged.   And it’s VITAL to note that both dyke and butch were most commonly associated with working-class queer women and queer women of color.  

It was not until the 1960’s that the word lesbian began to imply NOT sleeping with men AT ALL, i.e.being exclusively attracted to women.    The decision to do so (and to treat bisexual women as not-really-queer) was very much tied up in second-wave-feminism.  That history includes gross TERF Shelia Jeffreys’ manifesto which stated bluntly “Our definition of a political lesbian is a woman-identified woman who does not fuck men”.   She made clear in 1979 that bisexuals were no-good gross traitors.  

By the 80’s there was a firm split between lesbians and bisexuals, and lesbians decided to take all the history and act like bisexuals had never been there at all.   It was easy.  Everything already said lesbian on it.  All they had to do was ignore the real history the words in our shared community and not teach it to younger lesbians about them.  Now today bisexuals are constantly excluded from our own history and accused of stealing it by lesbians who frankly don’t know what the hell they are talking about.  Hello bi erasure.  

So any time you see the word lesbian being used or being applied to queer women before the 1960’s, you need to remember that many of those lesbians were what we would now call bisexuals.  

This is why the claim “the terms butch and femme (and dyke) arose from the LESBIAN community for LESBIANS exclusively about the LESBIAN experience” is misleading as hell.  Lesbian communities were shared with bisexuals from the very beginning.   Our history is shared as Same Gender Loving People.  

So it is indeed historically accurate to say, as feminismandflowers did: “bi women have ALWAYS been a part of queer women’s movements and always will be. we have always been a part of forming “lesbian” culture and always will be. and we will always reserve the right to reclaim words like femme, butch, and dyke, because these are also descriptors of our lives and our experiences of queerness.”

- Sarah 

sahraylia asked: you always say such nice things about me and i really appreciate it :)

Everyone raise your hand if you think shayna deserves a nice thing all the time




I’m dying…Patrick Rothfuss just published this review to Goodreads on his yet to be published book.

this is hilarious. I get so annoyed at the people who rate books on goodreads without having even read it yet, like what’s your freaking problem?  

I now want to read his books.





I’m dying…Patrick Rothfuss just published this review to Goodreads on his yet to be published book.

this is hilarious. I get so annoyed at the people who rate books on goodreads without having even read it yet, like what’s your freaking problem?  

I now want to read his books.



let’s start a “queer kids identifying with monsters and villains because we grew up watching queercoded bad guys in every show and movie” club


I thought that only the bag of chips was knitted so I was like lmaoo fucking idiot bird got owned then I saw that the bird was knitted as well then I realized I was the fucking idiot bird getting owned

why is there a fault in our stars themed potato snack


I thought that only the bag of chips was knitted so I was like lmaoo fucking idiot bird got owned then I saw that the bird was knitted as well then I realized I was the fucking idiot bird getting owned

why is there a fault in our stars themed potato snack

harmlesshurricane asked: I know there's a one-sided mindset some people have in regards to Kieren/Simon. But one of my favorite aspects of their relationship is how much it does for Kieren. Simon is one variable, there are plenty others helping him with his self-acceptance, but I feel like it plays such a huge part in it. Just watching Kierens confidence towards Simon grow and accepting his own (PDS) look. Being able to see that growth in a character, for me, is amazing. And loving yourself is so important.


Oh gosh… okay, I have a lot of feels about Simon, A LOT OF FEELS about Simon, but please don’t get me started on my perfect baby angel Kieren and his self-acceptance because I might break. I don’t even know where to start, I just….

You’re right in that other people have added to his confidence but let’s look at something REALLY IMPORTANT okay? We leave off Season 1 after Rick’s death, and Amy leaves, and Kieren is left alone in Roarton once again. By the time the story picks up again in season 2, it’s been a YEAR. A whole fucking YEAR and Kieren is very nearly the same person he was when we last saw him.

He still feels uncomfortable without his contacts/cover up (to the point of COVERING THE MIRROR still! He’s been covering the mirror for a year! A WHOLE YEAR OF BEING UNABLE TO LOOK AT HIMSELF AS HE REALLY IS) and clearly no one has told him it’s ok not to use it, considering the attitude of the townsfolk when Amy and Simon return not wearing any. He hasn’t made ANY friends that we’ve seen. He is still hung up on Rick to a degree, visiting his grave at least regularly if not daily. He is following his parents’ behavior of just pretending everything is okay and he actually has himself convinced it’s TRUE if he just says it enough! That’s heartbreaking!!

And then Simon arrives, and he’s not wearing any cover up or his contacts and he actually makes this weird face and makes this inaudible disgusted noise when he talks about how Kieren has all that stuff on his face, and there’s that spark in Kieren that wants to be like that. And then Simon talks quietly about being who he is, right here, and that’s all Kieren has wanted and thought he couldn’t have, it’s the whole reason Kieren is so desperate to get out, because he thinks he can’t be himself here and he needs to be. He needs to be himself after everything that happened in his first life and what’s happened since he got back.

And then Kieren gets pushed. Simon pushes him, presses him to see what makes him tick, what makes him act. Simon turns up at his work and watches him while conflict rises- Simon doesn’t even DO anything except exist and watch Kieren in those moment, waiting to see what he’ll do, and that alone is enough pressure to cause Kieren to act. It causes peaceful, gentle Kieren to confront GARY of all fucking people, and not just that, all that anger at hiding boils right to the surface when Gary insults the very thing Kieren is so angry at having to use to hide (“I don’t take orders from a lad who wears makeup” - HE IS ONLY WEARING MAKEUP BECAUSE YOU CAN’T HANDLE SEEING HIM WITHOUT IT YOU FUCKWAD FUCK YOU GARY I WOULD BE ANGRY ENOUGH TO SHOVE YOU THROUGH A BAR TABLE TOO). He is angry enough to, for the first and last time in the series, use physical force to express himself. This is something Kieren didn’t even do when Bill KILLED RICK. Bill literally killed the boy Kieren DIED over his grief for losing, and Kieren couldn’t bring himself to physically hurt Bill. Simon has only been in Kieren’s life for a day and already figured out how to push his buttons and point him in the direction of change.

And then there’s Kieren, who is so cautious, so wary of anything having to do with the prophet… Kieren, who can’t reconcile the smoking hot boy sitting on his gravestone reciting poetry to him with the 12th Disciple of the Undead Prophet nonsense, who is so ready to just walk away because Simon can’t seem to separate himself from it (for example in the hospital, Simon pressing Kieren’s buttons again and finding out that Kieren WILL NOT follow him when it comes to some things), and the moment Simon realizes that Kieren really might walk away, he does a 180 and separates Kieren from his “duty” (“There’s what I believe… and then there’s you”) in the hopes that Kieren understands that Simon doesn’t want Kieren the follower (something I think Simon may have only just realized as well). Simon wants Kieren to be Kieren, and he wants that for reasons that have nothing to do with the prophet. And Kieren… Kieren hasn’t had that before. What I mean is that… Kieren hasn’t had someone that wants him to be himself. There wasn’t anyone, except his few days with Amy, who wanted him to just be who he was rather than who everyone else wants him to be. That’s novel. That’s thrilling.

What’s even more thrilling is that immediately following that, Simon follows through; Kieren asks him to wear his cover up, to come have lunch with his family, to try to participate in the world like Kieren participates in the world…. and it’s a disaster. It’s a disaster all around, and it starts the ball rolling on Kieren realizing that his way of operating in the world actually isn’t any better. It’s worse. He can’t “step out of line” anywhere even when his behavior WOULDN’T BE out of line if he were living. Even with his own family.

And that’s when Kieren stops wearing his coverup. That’s when he goes to the bungalow with Simon, and he takes out his contacts and he starts to wipe off his make up. And that’s when Kieren realizes what he’s done, how what he asked Simon to do (wear the make up and contacts, too) is wrong, is what the rest of the world was making Kieren do. That’s why he gets up and starts to clean Simon’s face first. It is an act of admitting he was wrong, just like their first kiss.

After that, we see Kieren the next morning being unable to go back into his disguise. He is unwilling to go back to hiding, and a large part of that is due to Simon’s influence on him.

SO YEAH. As good as Kieren is for Simon, Simon is just as good for Kieren. And that’s a HUUUUUGE part of why I love them so fucking much.


#SaveInTheFlesh Social Media Sunday

Hello people!

#SaveInTheFlesh Social Media Sundays are going to be the last Sunday of every month. 

This means Sunday 27th July is the next one.

A lot of you know all about and taken part in this before (thanks so much!), but as anyone taking a casual glance at the tag has noticed, this fandom is growing rapidly, so we’ll explain what this is again.

Basically, we started this campaign in mid-June - this is the original post - to demonstrate how much love for the show is out there and make sure the BBC knows it. The response from the fandom was amazing - we, got amazing support from the Sherlockians and sherlockology, and check out these stats. The show’s creative team certainly noticed the fans’ efforts and the noise we all created brought new fans to the show.

We want to make this an ongoing campaign - we’re going for once a month so that we all have time to create things for each event.

It would be really great if lots of new fans (especially everyone coming in from Teen Wolf) could take part this time!

This is how you get involved:

#SaveInTheFlesh - Sunday 27th July - 10pm UK time


  • We all create a post - this isn’t about likes and reblogs, this is a show of numbers. It could be a bit of fan art you’ve made, your favourite quote, a picture of your favourite character, or even just one of the images above
  • Here are screencaps (series 1 - here is series 2) for images and here are the scripts for quotes. Or you can use this free to use fan art from ruvillie and these free to use gifs.
  • In the caption, say how much you like the show and that you want another series
  • Include mentions of BBC Three and BBC America - do this by typing “@ bbcthree” and “@ bbcamerica” in your post without the space. When it has worked, the @ will disappear and the text will become a link. The BBC’s tumblr accounts will then get a notification when you publish the post so they’ll see you love the show
  • Tag it saveintheflesh
  • Schedule it for 10pm UK time on Sunday 27th July



  • Tweet #saveintheflesh at BBC Three and BBC America
  • After creating your own tweet, retweet a few others from the tag a few minutes later
  • Get conversations going with your fellow fans - tweet questions and answer other people’s using the hashtag. This will help get the numbers up and ensure the topic stays busy. 

This particular campaign method is all about timing - by suddenly all talking about the show, we send a strong, united message of support to the BBC, and show the talented cast and crew that we love them and we’re behind them all the way.

Remember: Sunday 27th July 10pm UK time

Spread the word!

tagged → #SO VERY PUMPED


Remember Ismael Mohamed Bakr, 9, Ahed Atef Bakr, 10, Zakaria Ahed Bakr, 10 and Mohamed Ramez Bakr, 11 - all from the same family - whose crime was nothing more than be Palestinian.

It does not matter how young you are, if you are Palestinian, Israel will kill you. A day which started out playing football on the beach ended with these children in body bags.

Will any Israeli be held responsible for their murder? Of course not. You’ll hear how Israel was only ‘defending’ itself and some nonsense about how Hamas was ‘hiding’ in the football they were playing with.

Israel will make something up (or pretend they’ll ‘investigate’ the incident - no outsiders allowed in that process, though!) and world leaders like Obama will regurgitate it.

While we’re on the topic of Obama, remember how he made a statement about the three Israeli settlers? It was a sweet thing to do. As of July 16, 209 Palestinians have been killed by Israel in their latest assault on the civilians of Gaza, at least 39 of whom are children.

You’re more likely to see your great-grandchildren graduate or hell freeze over than hear a word from him on Palestinian children or criticising Israel’s war crimes.

tagged → #gaza #world news